Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Some Kind Of Crisis

I saw a snippet of an interview on the "Crisis in Boys" on channel 2 on cable today, and I couldn't believe that they were still whining about that. My god. If there is such a "crisis" in boys, then why is it that girls still get paid as a group less across almost all fields, are vastly outnumbered by men at the top echelons in virtually every profession except for modeling and porn, are not represented equally in any law-making, law-enforcing, or law-interpreting body, are the overwhelming targets of male violence in the form of rape, domestic violence, and murder each day, and are still forced to largely carry the primary - if not entire - burden of raising children, cooking and cleaning for no pay within the home?

For a crisis, boys sure are making out like bandits.

The fact that anyone can look at today's political, legal, and social climate and determine that there is a crisis in boys, underscores, yet again, the massive institutionalized inequalities facing girls. If we are to believe the proponents of this so-called "Crisis in Boys" theory, and take as a given that boys do worse in school, have more emotional problems, suffer from more learning disabilities, and are basically getting their asses handed to them on a platter by good little girls who can sit quietly in their seats, listen to the teacher, and learn, the fact that men continue to dominate over women politically, economically, legally, and socially begins to look even more starkly as if it is based on clear-cut gender discrimination.

If meritocracy was alive and well, and if we again believe the proponents of this theory, our society should already be a female-dominated paradise. Yet, sadly, this is not the case.

Here's what would put a stop to this so-called "crisis" in boys: Parents who discipline their boys, teach them equality instead of entitlement, restraint and communication instead of violence, and respect instead of arrogance.


Ally Bean said...

yeah, i've been reading about this alleged crisis. seems like asking boys/men to "grow up" is too much for them to handle. poor babies-- so delicate and vicitmized by modern society.

Gypsy said...

I don't buy the crisis line for a second. I love men, but I can't help thinking, "Payback is a bitch."

Pas said...

It's the fear of loss of male power that is ever present and manefests itself through the promotion of "values", bigotries and manufactured crises.

Buttercup said...

Payback IS a bitch. And what do they want from us? To let them run around mad in the school rooms, outshout the girls, and tussle instead of reading? Aren't we supposed to be training men to be respectable human beings instead of testosterone-crazed lunatics?

Yeah, it sucks to be told that you can't do everything that you want to do when you want to do it, and that you have to sit still instead of sprinting after Mary Sue or playing capture the flag with Bobbie-Bob. But too freaking bad. Boys have BEEN coddled. They CONTINUE to be coddled by our society that continues to REWARD them for UNDER-performing women (in all areas except upper arm strength - WHOOP-DI-DOO).

Really, what these so-called researches are referring to as a crisis is nothing more than the effects of how our society is currently raising boys. The solution, far from what they suggest, is not to change the way we teach in our classrooms to pander to A-D-D kids who shout and scream (apparently disproportionatelyl boys).

Rather, as I suggested earlier, the solution is for parents to stop teaching their boys to feel entitled and to make them sit their asses down in chairs and be good students, and force them to set and clear the tables with right along with their sisters.

If society didn't accept the nonsense that boys "will be boys" there would be no talk about this crisis, and only talk about forcing them to shape up.

Boys need to stop acting like babies, and start acting like the men that they are going to become. And not crazy lunatic men, but instead sweet, sensitive, egalitarian men.