tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post6197126961465317092..comments2023-06-26T06:29:10.055-04:00Comments on Tout de Suite Buttercup!: Anti-TextingButtercuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-80591354191455380042007-06-06T15:30:00.000-04:002007-06-06T15:30:00.000-04:00"If he's too busy, too scared, or too uninterested..."<EM>If he's too busy, too scared, or too uninterested to call, he's basically a waste of time, energy, and emotional space.</EM>"<BR/><BR/>This guy, <EM>Erik</EM> (no?), will be the test of that statement because <EM>you did</EM> respond to his text message. Fear, or cowardice, is probably the main reason for a guy or girl to text. <BR/><BR/>This fear may or may not be a bad thing. The guy could be afraid because he is very attracted to you, and maybe you seem out of his league, or maybe he hasn't dated for a while, etc. Or maybe the guy is just extremely self-conscious, so unless you like "projects" you should stay away.<BR/><BR/>Based on what you wrote, I would guess this guy texted because he realized he said he was going to call and didn't. He probably texted to test the waters and see if you were pissed at him. His test worked because you instructed him to call you and that is why he did. <BR/><BR/>The question now is <EM>Why didn't he call you on the day he said?</EM> It is possible someone died or his car was stolen, but not likely. In any case he should have called to apologize.<BR/><BR/>By responding to his text in <EM>any</EM> way, you shifted the balance of power to him. Not by the response, but by not holding him immediately accountable for his statement that he would call on a particular day. In effect you're chasing him. In all likelihood he might now offer a flippant apology, like <EM>oh yeah, sorry about that, I got tied up with this big...</EM> whatever.<BR/><BR/>He might be a great guy, but unless you shift the balance of power back to the middle (or to your favor if you're evil like me), he'll probably keep pulling stuff like this throughout any relationship to come.No Replyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13897528591850712444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-67195768062743762982007-06-06T12:56:00.000-04:002007-06-06T12:56:00.000-04:00I think you handled Mr. Reunion's text well. You ...I think you handled Mr. Reunion's text well. You stuck to your guns by requesting that he call you without ignoring his text completely. Power up, 'Cup!Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01875496721000801632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-75326462338270336042007-06-06T11:28:00.000-04:002007-06-06T11:28:00.000-04:00texting works best once you are already in somethi...texting works best once you are already in something, even if it is not a committed thing. Kind of like emails to work, you dont have time to talk talk but your bored and want to say hello. It should not be used to get a womans attention.Sparky Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10599649584020982942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-40635105751037428402007-06-06T10:49:00.000-04:002007-06-06T10:49:00.000-04:00I'm with you on this. It seems too easy. There sho...I'm with you on this. It seems too easy. There should be nervousness, I think, something on the line -- and who can be nervous about a text message?Gypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14327359141716141220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-86321704930477893362007-06-06T10:26:00.000-04:002007-06-06T10:26:00.000-04:00Great policy; Great post. So, yeah, to echo Wood ...Great policy; Great post. So, yeah, to echo Wood - when is the date and what are you going to do?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-21714206588640487922007-06-06T08:59:00.000-04:002007-06-06T08:59:00.000-04:00Texting is fine as a secondary or tertiary method ...<I>Texting is fine as a secondary or tertiary method of communication, and particularly useful for ironing out logistics</I><BR/><BR/>I agree wholeheartedly. Good policy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-45538574370476060482007-06-06T08:55:00.000-04:002007-06-06T08:55:00.000-04:00don't leave us hanging! when is your date with Mr....don't leave us hanging! when is your date with Mr. Reunion?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-35016141220047025822007-06-06T08:45:00.000-04:002007-06-06T08:45:00.000-04:00I like your stand on texting. You're right it shou...I like your stand on texting. You're right it shouldn't be used to set up a date, I can see where it would come in handy for some things, but not that!<BR/><BR/>Of course, where I'm from very few people are that advanced as to know how to text! Including myself. LOLWillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07238343671095316145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-4735962849073878282007-06-06T08:07:00.000-04:002007-06-06T08:07:00.000-04:00I have never understood texting. I prefer phone ca...I have never understood texting. I prefer phone calls as well for any form of communication. I had an acct rep for one of our consultants sit next to me in a 3.5 hour meeting on Monday, and she was texting for about the first 2.5 hours. I wondered why she was even there and even moreso, why we would be billed for her non-attentiveness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com