tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post116952731255797723..comments2023-06-26T06:29:10.055-04:00Comments on Tout de Suite Buttercup!: Walnut WastelandButtercuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169658354321434902007-01-24T12:05:00.000-05:002007-01-24T12:05:00.000-05:00Mist1 - Ha!Mist1 - Ha!Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169620991278286872007-01-24T01:43:00.000-05:002007-01-24T01:43:00.000-05:00I try not to cry in the company of men, unless I r...I try not to cry in the company of men, unless I really, really want that pair of shoes.mist1https://www.blogger.com/profile/15225983360910803121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169580653183236512007-01-23T14:30:00.000-05:002007-01-23T14:30:00.000-05:00Ally Bean - Today, I am feeling completely whole. ...Ally Bean - Today, I am feeling completely whole. However, clearly I still have sadness to work through. In a way, I guess that is kind of like a hole, and if so then yes I am a better person for it. It's made me understand my own strengths and it's given me a greater ability to empathize.Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169570756034329522007-01-23T11:45:00.000-05:002007-01-23T11:45:00.000-05:00Starshine - Who knew that making out with a boy co...Starshine - Who knew that making out with a boy could be so therapeutic?<BR/><BR/>WN - There is strength in vulnerability, and that goes for you too! I'm glad my words were a small comfort. I owe you many more for all the times you've brought me comfort and insight through your comments here. Stay strong WN. It will work out eventually.<BR/><BR/>Sparky - Of course the boy would be in favor of getting naked as a step towards healing! :) But, in seriousness, I think it did crack the walnut and that is a positive step that I'm apparently ready to take, and that feels good.<BR/><BR/>Gypsy - I think you're right. I don't feel heartsick or despondent now. But in those moments, I just felt sad and they let some of the sadness that I was still feeling out. I think it is part of the healing and the mourning of the good things about him and our relationship that I do miss (eventhough there's a lot that I don't miss, like him hurting me).<BR/><BR/>Lass - That's exactly right. The walnut cracked, but it wasn't smashed, so it will probably crack again in the future, little by little, but that's ok.Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169567573242383162007-01-23T10:52:00.000-05:002007-01-23T10:52:00.000-05:00Oooh girl. Don't I know exactly how you feel. I do...Oooh girl. Don't I know exactly how you feel. I do. And you know what? You're taking all the right steps. Moving forward with your new job hunt, going out with friends, trying new things (knitting), and even these little Navy Boy makeout sessions. And that little walnut will crack slowly. There will be times down the road that you still hurt, and maybe you'll shed a tear or two more. But soon enough he'll just be a memory. One that won't cause you that pain anymore. It will be better soon, I promise. HUGS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169567040931705592007-01-23T10:44:00.000-05:002007-01-23T10:44:00.000-05:00The tears are a wonderful sign. They're part of th...The tears are a wonderful sign. They're part of the healing. You've hardended your heart when you needed to, when thinking about him and caring about him would have been too much. But now? You're stronger, so you can let it out a little bit. You can start grieving, but not in the way that means you're heartsick or despondent. In a way that means you're healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169561946039403422007-01-23T09:19:00.000-05:002007-01-23T09:19:00.000-05:00Look forward to the time when you reach this: you ...Look forward to the time when you reach this: you think about the EXBF and are able to say with full confidence and conviction "effing bitch", well insert proper curse word here.<BR/><BR/>I think the getting naked in the first place is a good step though, and cracking at the walnut is even a bigger step.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169557692105116112007-01-23T08:08:00.000-05:002007-01-23T08:08:00.000-05:00I'm really not sure I can say it any better than t...I'm really not sure I can say it any better than the always-eloquent Starshine. I also agree that there is strength in vulnerability. A wise person (I saw this because I can't really remember who told me, but I'm sure they were smart) once told me that character is built not by the choices we make, but how we deal with the outcome of those choices.<BR/><BR/>Suppression works...initially, as a coping mechanism however we can't suppress forever and true healing only starts to take place when we allow ourselves to delve into things and work them through.<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you are well on your way to healing and that you are allowing yourself some time, which is SO important for our hearts. You really are SO fierce....it amazes me...yet, it doesn't surprise me either...It was obvious from the first time I read your site that you were more than a little awesome.<BR/><BR/>PS - thanks for the comforting comments on my site re: adoption. We're starting to get over the hump (it will take time) and beginning to look towards other options...I really did appreciate the words of comfort...they helped dry the tears.<BR/><BR/>take careAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1169529847224773802007-01-23T00:24:00.000-05:002007-01-23T00:24:00.000-05:00Oh, my friend! I'm so glad you're letting yoursel...Oh, my friend! I'm so glad you're letting yourself cry and feel those things again. That's the best way to move forward with your life...to let that stuff out, feel your feelings, acknowledge them for what they are, and then move ahead. You are a strong woman. And there is strength in your vulnerability.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com