tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post116467238096045335..comments2023-06-26T06:29:10.055-04:00Comments on Tout de Suite Buttercup!: Overwhelmed and Despondent At The Thought Of Moving (Out) (Again) (On)Buttercuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10799238720510105530noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1164831896866799222006-11-29T15:24:00.000-05:002006-11-29T15:24:00.000-05:00*hugs*Always, always do what's best for you first....*hugs*<BR/><BR/>Always, always do what's best for you first. I know you're in a tough spot, but definitely give yourself some time to heal with some sort of stableness in your life.<BR/><BR/>I know that sometimes it feels like it, but you aren't alone and certainly there are plenty of us who share your pain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1164773327308694132006-11-28T23:08:00.000-05:002006-11-28T23:08:00.000-05:00I know this is unbelievably hard. When my ex moved...I know this is unbelievably hard. When my ex moved out, I was in the process of looking for a new job. I stopped my search for a couple of months while I recovered, and then continued again. It was easier to focus on one thing at a time. My kids, me, my job. I didn't have the housing issue, but putting the pieces back together takes time. Your housing search will give you something to focus on, something to create, and make yourself comfortable. I'd stick with the current job until your housing is stable. It's not giving up on your dream, it's just postponing. And that's ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1164728933509879252006-11-28T10:48:00.000-05:002006-11-28T10:48:00.000-05:00Oh bother,Ok, the easy stuff first. I am the first...Oh bother,<BR/><BR/>Ok, the easy stuff first. I am the first hand example that finding a job is easier when you are already employed, since I am now getting ready to pass 3 years unemployed, though I dont count the first year since I was still getting paid. Perhaps a job with a temp agency/contract lawyer type thing?<BR/><BR/>As for the place, maybe living outside the city -ducks-?<BR/><BR/>Ok, on the last bit, I have been exactly where you are, with my ex wife saying working things out was not an option. It takes time, it takes talk and it does take crying. Your still in the stunned faze, unfortunately, you have to go through this faze until it just fades away on its own. Hold on for the "fun" roller coaster. Things will improve once you move, its like a total fresh start.<BR/><BR/>if ya need to talk shoot me a mail, the more people that listen to you the better things are.Sparky Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10599649584020982942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1164724041685223312006-11-28T09:27:00.000-05:002006-11-28T09:27:00.000-05:00Ugh, I hate this for you. As if one heartache wasn...Ugh, I hate this for you. As if one heartache wasn't enough, you have to deal with the loss of a relationship, housing difficulties, and a job you hate. I'm so sorry. <BR/><BR/>But I do know that you'll get through it and come out happier the other side. It's just that the other side seems so far away right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22920054.post-1164676114181768032006-11-27T20:08:00.000-05:002006-11-27T20:08:00.000-05:00Oh Buttercup...this post breaks my heart. This mu...Oh Buttercup...this post breaks my heart. This must be so difficult....I am sending you every once of strength, spirituality and goodness that I can possibly muster.<BR/><BR/>You will get through this and you WILL once again thrive. You'll also get to that "place" you've been searching for...the road might be different than what you'd previously mapped out...but you'll get there...You are fierce and strong, don't let anyone ever make you feel any less.<BR/><BR/>Please let us (internets) know if there is anything we can do. You konw you always have a place to crash in Atlantic Canada should you need a change of scenery.<BR/><BR/>HUGSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com